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The Enabler (or the Caretaker)

Do you relate to any of the following?

  • Do you often find yourself sacrificing your own needs or desires to help others?
  • Are you constantly worried about others' problems to the point where it affects your own well-being?
  • Do you have difficulty saying "no" to others, even when you know it would be best for you to do so?
  • Have you ever felt responsible for the happiness and success of those close to you?
  • Do you tend to get involved in helping or fixing situations without being asked?
  • Do you believe that if you don't take care of certain things, no one else will?
  • Is your self-esteem tied to your ability to make others happy or solve their problems?
  • Have you ever found yourself in relationships (romantic, familial, or friendships) where your role is primarily that of the giver or supporter?
  • Do you find yourself financially supporting others who are capable but perhaps unwilling to support themselves?
  • Have you stayed in unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships because you felt the other person needed you?

If these questions resonate strongly with you or elicit a particular emotional response, they may indicate a pattern of enabling or caretaking behavior.

While the enabler traits can be seen as positive, especially in terms of empathy and generosity, they can also lead to burnout and neglect of one's own needs.

The Enabler Worksheets can help you discover the power of prioritizing your well-being and fostering meaningful, reciprocal relationships.

(+35 pages of evidence based exercises and techniques)

What’s Included?

  • Self-Assessment
  • Identifying Your Enabling Behaviors
  • Enabling Behavior Log
  • The Enabling Cycle
  • The Costs of Enabling
  • What You Can Control
  • Behavioral Replacement
  • Setting Boundaries
  • Assertive Communication - Expressing needs
  • Saying No
  • Managing Guilt
  • Identifying Supportive Relationships
  • Self-Care Strategies
  • Relapse Prevention
  • Forgiving Yourself

Who Is The Enabler?

"The Enabler" is a role often assumed by a person within a dysfunctional family unit, though it can also extend to other settings such as friendships, romantic relationships, or work environments.

The enabler typically supports or facilitates another person's unhealthy behaviors, addictions, or irresponsibility, either passively or actively.

The enabler's actions, while often well-intentioned, can prevent the individual displaying unhealthy behavior from facing the natural consequences of their actions.


Embrace the opportunity to nurture your emotional health and relationships. These worksheets are more than just a resource; they're a stepping stone towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.

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Hi there, my name is Hadiah.

I am a counselor and the author behind Ineffable Living blog – a codependency and mental health blog.

I wanted the worksheets to be both informative and engaging, so I worked on creating clear and concise instructions, thought-provoking prompts, and activities that would encourage self-reflection.

As I witnessed the positive impact these worksheets had on my clients' progress, I realized their potential to reach a broader audience.

Whether you’re a therapist, a coach, or a counselor who is looking for tools to help your clients or simply someone who is seeking personal growth, coping strategies, or ways to enhance your overall well-being, our worksheets are here to assist you.